Dating courtship marriage

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It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.In addition, it can be hard to find the “real” person behind the public face presented in front of the entire family.No one is the same in a group setting as he or she is one-on-one.Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.

The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.If a couple is never alone together, they never have that one-on-one opportunity to relate and get to know one another in emotional and spiritual intimacy.In addition, some courtship situations have led to borderline “arranged marriages” by the parents and have resulted in resentment in one or both of the young people.The Victorian girls, from the very beginning, were well trained and groomed to become the perfect wives and mothers.

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