If you read the comic strip "Peanuts," you probably know about the little red-haired girl. Charlie Brown worships her from a distance -- a long distance.The few times he gets up the nerve to approach her, something gets in the way and messes things up. A lot of guys can sympathize, some more than others.If he’s just the opposite of that, it means he completes you. If you find that your boy doesn’t easily mingle with others, it’s because shy people take time to open up. Once they get to know (and like) someone, they let their guard down and can have a perfectly nice time with them. If you know that you two are going somewhere where you are likely to bump into a lot of your old friends, don’t spring it upon him. Inform him about the nature of the event/ party and explain how you know XYZ.That way he’ll be a lot more comfortable when he actually does meet them for the first time.As far as we understand, most shy people are aware that they are painfully shy and would like it to be otherwise.
Shy guys might be cute and endearing, but on a date, it can lead to awkward silences and tension. Spend time together doing friend things, and not only will you get to know him but he’ll learn to drop his guard, too.
For instance, if he’s more of a dinner/ movie date types, then throw these kind of date nights into the mix.
While this is standard dating advice for any couple out there, it applies most to you and Mr Shy Guy over here.
If being emotionally and mentally available for him will help him overcome chronic shyness that he’s struggled with for years, then so be it. So don’t keep gnawing at his conscience with the fact that he’s really shy. If it’s something he knows about and likes about himself – accept him!
You can always let your man know that while you are totally at peace with his shy and reserved nature, there are some people you really wish he would make more of an effort with. This way he knows that you’re not trying to change him, you’re just trying to include him in your world.
In order to date a shy guy, you need to be comfortable being the one who takes control and makes the moves… If you’ve ever had, or currently have, a crush on a shy guy, then you know how difficult it can be to deal with them.