Ok Cupid on the other hand strictly uses their statistics when deciding on how long your email should be.For men, their statistics suggest that longer emails result in greater success.If I’m able to spend hours every night writing emails or if there are only a few people I want to contact it seems to me that, based on their numbers, you would want to write longer emails.I don’t mean to confuse the issue; I do believe shorter emails are better.Ok has some interesting statistics on online dating emails, specifically some numbers on who gets responses to their first email.Creating good first emails is something I’ve discussed in my online dating guide and also in some posts.Writing an interesting question or two can't guarantee a response, but NOTHING CAN. Don't waste your time and don't waste anyone else's — you have to put in a little work this way, but just do it.
The idea that you must make a decision in a particular way just because an equation says it’s the action most likely to work is…well, silly.
If your joke isn't funny to that person, it's either a) not funny at all, or b) not funny to him/her. In the middle of this city you're walking around in, surrounded by thousands and millions of people walking, you fear you might be the only one who likes walking?
You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.
In other words, if I can either write four short emails in an hour or one long email in an hour, my odds of getting a response from one of the four women I write is far greater than the single 35% chance from the one woman I contact with a long email.
This theory seems strong as long as two things are assumed: a) you have a relatively limited amount of time to contact people and b) there are a large number of people you wish to contact.
If you look at the numbers, particularly the chart for women, the difference isn’t really all that much between the success of the long versus the short emails anyway. For example, how many of the short emails were a guy sending out the same “You’re hot” email over and over.