(I think they call this "failure to launch.") I went out all the time and hung out with my other guy friends who had really attractive girlfriends, but I was the pitiful "lonely guy" of the group that would hardly ever get a phone number or date.
And if I did get a date, it always ended up as "friends" at the end, because I was such a "Nice Guy." But I'd also look at my guy friends who had cool girlfriends and think, "He's not all that great looking, or all that smart." So How In The World Were These Other Guys I asked myself that over and over again.
FAST SUCCESS TIP #2: "Conversation Jump-Start" Have you ever been talking to a woman for a few minutes, and as the energy of the conversation starts to dip a little (right about where you are running out of things to say) she just looks back to her friends and turns her back to you?
I call this the "back turn," and it's one of those experiences guys hate more than anything.
The most important thing for you to do is to get what I call "Fast Success." I'm not talking about the kind that you were warned about by your Jedi grandfather, who told you to "beware of the easy path." Fast Success is getting you results as quickly as possible so So your first step is to learn the basic skills so you can get those quick victories and teach your "unconscious mind" that you can do this.
Let me give you an example of something quick and easy that you can use the next time you're out talking to a woman...
I started to get really frustrated, and then I even got angry with women over it.
I felt myself blaming them for my situation, even though I knew they weren't the problem.
This is popular advice from people who don't understand how to train guys properly.
reason, the woman assumes you're picking up on her. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine they use of being a little stand-offish to you until you can bust past this barrier.
Instead of complimenting a woman when you first meet her, take the opportunity to gently tease her.
A few years back, I had what you might call a crisis.
I'm not going to bore you with all the details, but let's just say that my dating life was really empty.
Just find one thing about her that you can tease her about as an introduction.