The rate of divorce in America remains high, leaving many adult men and women alone, available and wondering how to maneuver on the playing field. D., offers advice gleaned from his own research and that of other experts to help you get back into dating mode.
Working with Shigeyuyki Hamori, an economist at Kobe University in Japan, I researched methods for estimating the qualities and contributions of marriage prospects.These things only bring temporary relief and may actually make matters worse.The pain gets buried alive, and at some point in the future it will come up in order to be healed – better to do it now rather than compound the problem. The bigger picture – the decision to start dating again will not only affect you but also your family, particularly children from the marriage.They are likely to miss their other parent and may not fully understand the reasons why you split.Introduce the idea of you dating again before you actually do anything and allow them the freedom to share their feelings with you. The feel good factor – Divorce affects people’s confidence not just in themselves but in relationships, love and the sanctity of marriage.This is where you do the work of reconnecting with yourself and developing the most loving, loyal and lasting relationship you can – you need to become your own best friend.