Dating is in direct contradiction of the following scriptures that admonish us to flee youthful lusts (Eph ; 2Tim ); flee fornication (1Cor ). It is naive to think that an invitation to a Bible study has no romantic connotations, or to think that any form of male/female touching is not sexual - a "touch" is sexual. The prevalence of date rape proves that it is impossible for a woman to guarantee she can say no, after one hour of introductory intimacy."Flee" is not merely refraining from sexual intercourse, it means staying away as far as possible from the beginning of the process. It seeks self-satisfaction apart from the responsibilities of marriage. It ignores the biological facts of human sexuality.1 Jn -17 states, "Do not love the world or the things in the world.If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Parents must overcome this naivety when a teen complains about parental restrictions.
Virginity is not just refraining from what I want to do before marriage, but bringing an inheritance into a marriage by the presentation of a pure body.
An inheritance of passion all stored and reserved for one partner, and an inheritance of security in a partner with a proven track record of faithfulness and self-control.
Sexual desires are not designed to be started and stopped over and over again!
Finally, it is naive to think that it is all a matter of self-control. Self-control means refraining from sexual touch of any kind, at least until covenantal engagement.
Is it just an innocent cultural expression; the way we do things in the west in the present century? " Jim West has defined a date as, "Any planned event involving a shared activity between a man and a woman" - one person asks the other to share in an activity, and a publicly recognizable pairing occurs.